most times i decide to blog to rid myself of guilt over some situation that was handled badly, but not today. today i blog to boast. today, lori and i successfully parented an introvert (kennedy) and an extrovert (gomah) without anyone feeling rejected or smothered. today we guided two young girls to have a conversation that allowed them to express their needs and love for each other successfully. lori (introvert) and i (extrovert) are as screwed up as ever but there is hope for our children.
i have to say i do feel badly for kennedy. she cannot walk out of a room or go to the bathroom without gomah following her or calling her. kennedy has the patience of a saint but her introverted needs were trumping her saintliness. me, in my extreme extrovertedness, had sympathy. my head understood gomah and her need to be around people. i have been known to follow lori into the bathroom.
tonight, lori and i, with the girls, set boundaries and came up with creative solutions that honored both girls and allows them to interact within perimeters that make them both happy. we taught them how to voice their needs and work out compromise. we were good. i am exhausted...i need to go to a party. lori has disappearred in the back somewhere.
tonight was a night when i remembered why i wanted children. to teach them well and let them lead the way. reality continually shows that teaching moments don't always happen like this, but when they do, it is a beautiful thing. maybe we should have another.
3 comments:
Hooray!!!!! You guys rock - even when you think you don't. Love you all!
Sharon
another teaching moment or another kid?? C'mon lets not get all crazy now. you guys are awesome parents, we talked about missing you at the reunion.
How did you ever birth an introvert? I have trouble believing you even have a recessive introvert gene. God Help Kennedy.
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